Takeover Unfiltered

Brianna Rooney:
Hello, welcome to talent takeover, unfiltered. Great to see you all again. So we have a super meaty episode, which is tips to building your resilience at work, which we're gonna break this up in the two parts because you know how we rattle right? Taylor oh yeah.

Taylor Bradley:
We're gonna go on tangents, a million tangents. So this one I'm great. How are you?

Brianna Rooney:
Good. I was even like, this might be three episodes

Taylor Bradley:
With us. I mean, it probably could be eight episodes for the eight tips, but, um, yeah, I'm really excited about this one. I think it's got a lot of valuable information for, for everyone, regardless of what industry you work in.

Brianna Rooney:
Yeah. That's the cool part because I know, um, in our course there's actually a module just for being a resilient, efficient recruiter, and it's hard, but you're right. This is like so meaty that this goes anywhere. This goes even in personal life, which is pretty crazy.

Taylor Bradley:
Yeah, absolutely.

Brianna Rooney:
So do not forget. You're broke boss tip, right?

Taylor Bradley:
Oh yeah. You can't ever forget the broke. You broke boss tip. I mean, that's critical, right? How can you survive without that people people need that every week or they won't, they won't survive. I'm kidding guys. obviously that's extreme. I place a lot of emphasis and value on my broke to boss tips, but, um, they're really just things that we come up with as the episodes progress. And as we start talking about things, so hope you guys find them as valuable as we do

Brianna Rooney:
Welcome to talent takeover

Taylor Bradley:
Unfiltered.

Brianna Rooney:
When it comes to working hard and keeping it real, we know our, self care, happiness, inner peace and time. I'm Brianna Rooney. And this is Taylor Bradley. Hey y'all. And we have thrived in chaos and turned it into in art form. So, Taylor, what are we doing here today?

Taylor Bradley:
We're here to give you a raw under the hood view of all things recruiting and finally give credit where credit is due to a long underrated industry. That's full of quote unquote experts.

Brianna Rooney:
All right. Well then let's take this show to the road.

Brianna Rooney:
Absolutely. Okay. So number one, Nuno pay attention to your health.

Taylor Bradley:
Yes. So when I was doing a ton of research about this, I mean, that seems so obvious, right. But, um, I was researching and it said people are 3.5, not just 3%, but 3.5 times more likely to be resilient when in good physical health, because the relationship is bidirectional, physical health obviously supports resilience, resilience, leads to better physical recovery. What are your thoughts on that? I know your very health focused

Brianna Rooney:
Very, oh, well, okay. Let me, let me separate though. Um, my eating habits, aren't on point. I, I drink, right? Like, like, I mean, like I, I look at

Taylor Bradley:
Jail no way not. I

Brianna Rooney:
Know, I know. Not me. I'm not an alcoholic. Uh, no. I mean like you look at jailer, you're like, God, she's like in her fifties and she is just woo that. So that's my, that's my celebrity crush. Um, but I look at her and I'm like, all right, what do you do? There's no way you drink. Sure enough. Nope. Doesn't drink. Okay. Well that's not fun. so

Taylor Bradley:
Basically we're never gonna look like JLo. Just it's just because of the drinking though. Not any other one.

Brianna Rooney:
No, no, no. Of course not as not genetics as not, no,

Taylor Bradley:
No,

Brianna Rooney:
But, um, you know, I was just, uh, I had a, a great, uh, stint in, in Tahoe. Um, remote life. Love that, but I was missing my, my regimen, my orange theory. Yeah. Like that's my, for me, that's my escape. I go to the five 15 in the morning class and I feel good. I feel a difference. So for today example, I didn't get to go. Um, we got my kids in the morning and I was like, okay, well maybe I can go at lunch. Right. So I do notice the days that I don't work out and my sanity, my anxiousness, um, I recently, I got anxiety older in life. I mean, I don't know when you're supposed to get anxiety, but I feel like I didn't get anxiety until I was pregnant with, with Diego. It's my first thought. I, I said, how are you in there? Yeah.

Taylor Bradley:
Oh, I mean, I've been anxious since day one. I think I was like anxious in the womb. So that's just, I've never heard of it being like one of those things that people develop as they get older. I have heard of people developing it after they have kids. Cuz we all know you'll never not stress after you have kids for the rest of your life. So totally. That's an interesting one. Um, okay, so then second one focus on your physical wellbeing. Mm-hmm so we talked about health, but physical wellbeing. So sleep, eating, healthy, staying hydrated exercise again, I know you're really big into this and I love that you said that you notice that you'll be off when you're not doing your, your standard regimen. You're not getting enough sleep or, you know, and I know for me, like if I go on vacation, it's a crap shoot.

Taylor Bradley:
You know, it's done. Like I'm not gonna eat the same. I'm not gonna sleep the same. None of it's gonna be the same. And just like you, my body just feels off this week. We've been crazy busy at work, as you know, and I haven't been able to exercise in the morning before when I start working and need to get kids to camp and all of that. And I definitely notice same as you difference in myself and I'm more anxious. You just need to, I need to get that out somehow. You and I are both just gonna be shocking to everyone, high energy people and um, have to have a lot of going on. And so if we don't, if I don't have some kind of outlet like that before I sit at a desk all day, I kind of just like get, Ugh.

Brianna Rooney:
Yeah. I actually got home from, uh, a workout the other day and uh, my fiance I dunno why I like that. I like that word so much just funny. But um, he was like, whoa, are you okay? I'm like, this is how I am after a workout. I was like, like, like a little Energizer buddy. And he's always sleeping when I get home in the morning. And so after work, like having like the energy from work and the energy from workout, he was like, okay, like go in like to this cave or something, go do something so you can explode

Taylor Bradley:
Yeah. You're just like, and we already talk a lot and fast anyway. So I can only imagine what your energy levels are like at that point. Poor Lincoln. I know we pray for you Lincoln

Brianna Rooney:
so I actually, I have a question you brought to something interesting. So we talk about again, resiliency at work. Um, but then you can talk about on vacation. So we, we do we're a little different, but we still have to be in it, especially like when you have kids, right. You still have to have that resilient mindset, resilience mindset. So how do you even do that on vacation?

Taylor Bradley:
I think that goes right into number three, which is practice relaxation techniques, um, meditation, quality time with family and friends. I think for me, like I just, as you know, was at the Khar resort this past weekend and um, it's an indoor water park. It's kids around water, hundreds of people. I mean, it get that alone, just gets my anxiety up. My adrenaline go in like all of it. And so I really think that you have to practice relaxation, take techniques personally and professionally when you're like, take a minute and go do something. And I, I really had to do that. I had to go downstairs and like grab myself some coffee, get 10 minutes to myself because it was just go, go, go, go, go, go, go. And then I end up, I'll end up in a mood or I'll end up super stressed. And I'm like, but this is not supposed to be fun. This is not something, something that's supposed to be. Yeah, mm-hmm but you know, it is when there's just so much, so many activities and so much stimulation. So I think it's really important in both personal life and professional to just practice those relaxation techniques, meditation, um, reading for 10 minutes, whatever it does that it is that relaxes you do that. Whether it's for work or personal still do that, it kind of make that part of your routine.

Brianna Rooney:
So how do you hold yourself accountable to that? Cause I know there's sometimes where we're like literally in back to back meetings where it's like, I'm gonna wear a diaper pretty soon. Cause like I don't have time to go bathroom so

Taylor Bradley:
I think I, I wish I held myself, excuse me. I wish I held myself accountable for that. I don't. And that's the problem. I notice the difference when I don't hold myself accountable. So I think for me it's one of those things where it'll become a cycle where it's like, okay, I should wake up earlier just to ensure that I get that in. But I'm like, I already wake up so early, but I know that by the end of the day, if I don't wake up early to work out, have that me time that I need mm-hmm that by the end of the day, you know, my wagon's dragon, I'm not worth of.

Brianna Rooney:
So I always love your saints.

Taylor Bradley:
My, my texts. Um, but yeah, I, I can tell a difference in myself. So I think that you have to each, to each their own figure out a way to hold yourself accountable, myself included. I kind of feel like for me, summer's just, everything gets off in summer, but once school starts again and we get, we are able to really be back in our routine as a family. Then in turn, I personally will be able to get more into my back into my routine.

Brianna Rooney:
Yeah. How do you think we can? I mean, not just family, but let's, let's go back to work for a second, but how do you think we can actually tell, um, our colleagues, our leaders, you know, at all levels, um, you know, like, look, I can't do back to backs. Like I I've now been trying to be like, Brandon, give yourself 15 minutes, like 10 minutes do something it's difficult because every like, you know, time is money. Right. But how, how do you think we can do that as an organization?

Taylor Bradley:
God, I mean, I wish we had an answer to that. You know, we tried doing the no meeting Fridays and then oh yeah. What, what that felt like to me and I'd love to hear your perspective is that it kind of, it felt exactly like how it feels like when you go on vacation, like take a Friday or a Monday off and then you're like, I got four days to cram everything I would normally do in five. And that's how that no meeting Fridays kind of ended up being for me where it's like in order to adhere to that, cuz it's great in theory. But then it was cramming my days, Monday through Thursday, just back to back to back to back. Um, I really do think it's important that both of us, everybody gets 15 minutes, some kind of break in between to like breathe, get yourself situated. Or I keep that kind of frazzled momentum going into every single meeting that I'm in

Brianna Rooney:
Love that you said that the frazzled momentum cuz that's exactly what it is and you can't be resilient in those moments. You can't be your best self. And so I think when we talk about resiliency, it's like, um, you'll, you'll be more triggered easily. You know, if, if, if you're just keep going, keep going, keep going. And then also, I mean, I'm sure everyone can relate to this. There's some meetings that you're like, I gotta do that meeting today. Like you got a good meeting, a bad meeting, okay. Meeting, you know, depending on what it is, what it's about, who it's with, you know, there's just so many interesting things. And as a recruiter, especially if you're doing phone screen after phone screen, after phone screen, it's like, you don't even know who you talk to. So your notes better be on point.

Taylor Bradley:
Yeah. And that well, and I think you bring up a great point. That's another area in which that those 15 minutes in between meetings could really be useful. Even if it's not, you know, to go change your diaper or whatever it is that you need to do. um, but you know, it's even if it's just to like, okay, let me prepare, let me go. And like get my notes together. Review like going into each meeting prepared, even coming into this prepared, let me review and kind of what our topics are. It's just one of those things that it's like that 15 minute buffer, it could only help. It could only benefit us all. Um, I did work for a company historically that they would make every meeting, like the CEO said, um, that the meetings had to be 45 minutes, no hour long meetings. Yeah. So you could block an hour, but the last 15 minutes, I mean he held all the leaders accountable. It's a hard stop at 45 minutes. So you need to cover your agenda. You need to do what you need to do because people need those 15 minute buffers in between each meeting to come prepared.

Brianna Rooney:
I really like that. I'm actually gonna write that down. Um, that's all. I was just actually, it's funny. I was talking to my, my brother about this. So he is, um, working internal. We won't say where, although everyone knows but uh, um, they have like, just back to back meetings, I'm like, when do you work? Like what is going on? Like what are these four? Like, there's just no way that they can hold you accountable to your job. And it's like, they're very much about, uh, work life balance, but it's like, then when are they working? They're just having meetings, you know? And, and some of them are culture building meetings, which are always great. Right. And then some are working meetings, but it's just, yeah, it's just such a long day, such a long

Taylor Bradley:
Day. And I don't, I don't know about you, but I hate when I feel like I'm just in back to back to back meetings and then I'll have something fluffy or something that's for the culture that I are things I absolutely love. I can't stress that in. I love those things, but if I've got a day, that's just like, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom of meetings that can tend to stress me out. I'm like, Ugh. You know, I just don't have time for that. But it's the things that I love the most that I actually feel better when I go into those meetings. And it's like, okay, then the rest of my day that is also back to back meetings kind of re-energizes me to have some sort of like, just like midday, Kiki, just shoot the session, you know? And everybody kind of just like we're doing today.

Taylor Bradley:
I think that's absolutely great. I've been back to back meetings after that. And before that, obviously, as I know you are, but it's gonna feel good to just kind of, okay, it's a light meeting. It's fun. We're just gonna all shoot the. That's gonna help energize me. I know for the rest of the day, although it's one of those things where, what we talked about, Brita, like we'll make plans and then we'll absolutely dread those plans. We're like, I don't know. I don't know if I wanna do that. And then, but when you go, you're so happy you went totally. You're like, I need to go do this. Yeah. That's what I feel like. Sometimes those meetings can be any meeting can be, but those, especially those culture ones where you're like, but we have business things that we need to do, but it's like, no, that that's probably one of the most important ones you need to be in for the day, you know, a hundred

Brianna Rooney:
Percent, a hundred percent. I, I, uh, subscribe to this guy. He's like Mr. Productivity or something like that. And he was really big on blocking off his calendar for like absolutely everything like really extreme. So I used to be the opposite. I used to hate seeing a full calendar and now I even have focus time on my calendar, which is cool, which will automatically decline meetings. Um, which, you know, so there's, yeah, there's so many different things that I've been kind of, um, I guess looking forward to where, like I see all of these things on there. I'm like, no, this is some good stuff. Here we go. So in my mind, I'm like, Hey, I'm gonna figure this out in this meeting and I'm gonna work for an hour and I'm gonna figure this out and then we're gonna, you know, work for an hour. I don't know. It's uh, it's interesting. But it, again, it goes back to the resilient mind on how you can constantly recharge and feel good pushing forward, which I think leads you into your fourth

Taylor Bradley:
One. I was about to say, that's beautiful because that's a perfect segue into the fourth of practice, reframing threats as challenges. And so this one is gonna be a little bit meatier because I thought this one was so huge and I really, really liked it. I think a lot of, a lot of what we do in life and how we approach situations is mental. You know, it's all in your head, change your mindset. So, um, practice reframing threats as challenges, cognitive appraisal is a way in which we view an event or a situation including its meaning and what is required to overcome it. So when we see something as a challenge, we recognize the possibility of growth. And then we also perceive that we have the resources to deal with the situation. So that view results and feelings of energy, anticipation, excitement, and they mobilize people for action and problem solving. Absolutely love that.

Brianna Rooney:
Love that. It's hard to do. It's hard. yeah, it's,

Taylor Bradley:
It

Brianna Rooney:
Is. It's super hard to do. And I think, honestly, this is when like affirmations come into place and um, I, I have, do you practice affirmations?

Taylor Bradley:
I don't

Brianna Rooney:
No. Ugh. You're, you're missing out. I love that. That's like a whole episode. I can, I can that, you

Taylor Bradley:
Know, we need to have an affirmation episode then if you feel you're like, Ugh. Yeah, we need to have a, when you get that reaction,

Brianna Rooney:
My, my eight year old has him and he's like, yeah, and I'm not joking. And, and this is funny, but like we were playing darts, uh, and he's saying his affirmations out loud, just so he can like focus and hit the dartboard and like win. It was like crazy. I was like, so impressed. Cause I I'm very open with all of the thing, all the practices I have. And I wish my parents would've told me about a lot of resiliency, affirmations, uh, emotional intelligence, all that stuff. Right. Um, so I try really hard with the kids, but yeah, it was so funny's just reciting affirmations.

Taylor Bradley:
I love that. I'm actually writing that down so that we can have a whole episode about that because I think that's good stuff for me. And I know there's others that need to learn that as well. So affirmations your kind of best practices, tips for your not only yourself, but your kids affirmations for your kids. I, I would love to hear more about that.

Brianna Rooney:
Yeah. So then how do you reframe, uh, reframe your mind?

Taylor Bradley:
Um, for me it's a lot of probably like, I mean, you've seen some of the videos I record, I go hide in my closet so that's like my place that I go, you'll see in some of my videos, I've got it, my safe behind me. I go to in my closet and that's like, that's where I go to get a minute to breathe. You know, I leave it dark in there. I'll just go sit in there for a second. And I, I, I call it getting my mind, right? Like mommy's gonna go get her mind. Right. I'll be right back you know? And so they know I have these little breaks that I go take where it's like, I'm gonna go. And I go and tell myself, it's a lot of like coaching myself of, okay, this fits for a full day of baseball or whatever. And it's stressful. The schedule will have me run around like a chicken with my head cut off. I'm like, this is fun stuff. It's not that I have to talk to myself a lot. That sounds legit crazy. But no, that

Brianna Rooney:
That's like affirmation, so.

Taylor Bradley:
Oh, okay. Yeah. Well then yeah. Get your mind right. Is definitely an affirmation that I, I will go to the closet, get your mind. Right. And then I'll come out and I'll be like, okay, I'm ready to go. I'm refreshed. Um, so do you wanna lead, let's go right into the broke to boss tip, which I think is, is perfect because it's about mindset. So, um, broke to Boston for this week, becoming aware of mindsets that don't serve you is the first step to changing them.

Brianna Rooney:
Oh, I like that. My mom says something about like, um, don't let people take free rent in your head, something along like it's. I was like, okay. Yeah. I, I like that. Can you repeat that one? Let that's a great one.

Taylor Bradley:
Yeah. Becoming aware of mindsets that don't serve you is the first step to changing them.

Brianna Rooney:
Love it. Love that. Woo. Yeah, that was good.

Taylor Bradley:
It's a.