Takeover Unfiltered

Brianna Rooney:
Hello, welcome to another fun episode of the talent takeover, unfiltered. So as you listen to, you know, how you can be resilient at work, we're gonna talk about the characteristics that you can embody. What do you think about this one? Taylor,

Taylor Bradley:
I love this one. The characteristics that resilient people embody. I think that half the people probably don't even know they embody these characteristics and they're gonna be like, oh, well, I'm actually a little bit more resilient than I thought. So I think this one's gonna be really insightful for a lot of our listeners and don't forget to stay on and listen to the broke to boss tip of the week. I always say always, it's gonna be a good one, but I'm like, that's a broken record. They're all, you know what I mean? I love this. So I'm like, of course I think they're good, but I also would love to know if there's any that stand out to anybody. Definitely reach out to us. If there's any broke to boss tips that you're like, whoa, that was really insightful. Or that was a game changer for me. We'd love to hear from you guys.

Brianna Rooney:
I mean, I hope that I'm sorry, as I already interrupt you

Taylor Bradley:
No, you're fine. Go ahead.

Brianna Rooney:
No, I was gonna say, I hope that, um, you know, they get the chills, like we do, like, I always talk about like, Ooh, I get the money chills, but like I got all sorts of stuff. Like when we're talking, cuz it's just not only so relatable, but it's things that you're like, oh my God, I didn't think about duh. Like it's like, that's that aha moment. That's the cool.

Taylor Bradley:
Yeah. I literally just got chills when you said that because I love having those moments. I mean, I, well, we've talked about it. We both get chills a lot, but I love having those moments where it's like, oh, I didn't even think about it that way. Or I've never, that's a completely different perspective. That was super insightful. And like I said, some of these tips, um, it'll be, or the characteristics I should say. It's interesting to, as I was reading through these, like I had no idea that that was a, a characteristic of someone who's resilient. And so I think that's where a lot of our listeners will probably take away from this. So I'll get right into it so people can kind of see what we're talking about. So, um,

Brianna Rooney:
Welcome to talent takeover

Taylor Bradley:
Unfiltered

Brianna Rooney:
When it comes to working hard and keeping it real. We know our. Self-care happiness, inner peace and time. I'm Brianna Rooney and this is Taylor Bradley. Hey y'all and we have thrived in chaos and turned it into in art form. So Taylor, what are we doing here today?

Taylor Bradley:
We're here to give you a raw under the hood view of all things recruiting and finally give credit or credit is due to a long underrated industry. That's full of quote unquote experts.

Brianna Rooney:
All right, well then let's take this show to the road

Taylor Bradley:
Characteristics that resilient people embody. So having a realistic sense of control over one's choices and an understanding of limitations over such control.

Brianna Rooney:
Ah, okay. So this goes into, um, what I was doing, the emotional intelligence training, like of basically being okay and resilient through whatever happens. So people had a really hard time understanding this because they said, well, what if you cannot control it? For example, um, you get an accident, you get sick, you cannot control those things. However, you can control how you react and respond to a situation how you don't let it get you down, how you move forward, how you know, all of those things you can control, but it's yeah.

Taylor Bradley:
Yeah. Well, it's accept the things that you cannot change. Mm-hmm the courage to things, change the things you can and the wisdom to know the difference. Right. Nice. So, um, it's, it's one of those things that I feel like it's really hard for people to do to say, except that, okay. I can't change that situation. So I'm not gonna stress about it. That goes back to the whole mental aspect of it, you know, to, to know what's within your control to change and let go of what's not.

Brianna Rooney:
Yeah. So I think of, um, being like a spin doctor, you know, with your mind sometimes kinda like mind yourself, but like, is that healthy? I, you know what, yeah,

Taylor Bradley:
Go. I think it is. I was gonna say, I think it's totally healthy. I think, I think anything that's like a, a positive mindset if it's like, okay, well that was supposed to happen. That way. What's meant for you is meant for you. I think that's a survival tactic. And in my opinion, you have to be able to pull your mind out of these places and know that like, okay, I can't change it. There's nothing I can do about it. So I'm going to move on. Why stress about something that you can't fix? Yeah. Why give it your energy?

Brianna Rooney:
Agreed. Okay. So then let me get with on the other side, because I have, I have two feelings on this, but okay. You know, when you can't change something and you know, that it's, that it just, it happened is what it is. Do you still think that you need to talk about it or do you still, or you feel like, Hey, I'm just gonna move on. Like this happened, I'm gonna move on and I'm gonna go forward because the more I dwell it's not healthy or are you gonna say, Hey, actually, the more you sweep things into the rug, that's not healthy either.

Taylor Bradley:
Yeah. I think, you know this about me by now. I'm not a sweeper under the rug type person. Like I actually feel better talking some out, even if I can't change it. Um, I think it's one of those things it's like, hear, hear somebody hearing you out or hearing your perspective and you hearing theirs agreeing to disagree. Cuz I think this is obviously the question situational, you know, mm-hmm, on, do you just keep rolling forward or do you, and, and sweep it under the rug or do you address it and most things in life for me, I'd rather just talk about it and get to a place of not agreement, but understanding. And it's like, mm-hmm , if we can get to a place of understanding, whether it's personal professional, I just feel better. I feel lighter. And it's like, okay, whatever happens from here happens from here. But I definitely, I'm not one that I'm like, let's have this conversation. That's me. That's my mentality is let's have the conversation and then let's move forward. Mm-hmm I definitely, I definitely like to have the conversation. What about you? Yeah.

Brianna Rooney:
Um, I go both ways and it depends on, uh, I think if it's personal or professional, right. And I go to a situation where I had a personal thing, you know, I had a, my was my best friend since I was like, I don't know, eight. She actually married my cousin and um, I know's quite a story, but I was like, I think I hit like 24, 25 where I was just not okay with certain behavior. Uh, you know, you just kind of grow up and it's like, yeah, you grow, you don't right. And I was like, that's not okay with me. And even though like her and I had a fine relationship, she didn't treat people very well. And it was that moment where I'm like, why am I okay with this? It's not affecting me, but yet it affects so many other people that I know I, I like and you know, stuff like that.

Brianna Rooney:
So I just had enough and she wanted to have this drawn out conversation. But I also knew her really well to the fact that I didn't feel she was self aware nor did I feel the psychological safety to have that conversation because I knew it was going to be a confrontational, like boxing match, you know? And I, I think that's the issue. And I think, um, you know, just even like, like work like with, with some individuals you want to help you wanna steer in the direction, but are they listening? Are they hearing you? Are they listening to understand or are they just present in the room? You know? So it's, it's interesting. You, what, what battles are we going into?

Taylor Bradley:
You know that, well, that goes back to like exactly what we were just it's totally situational, you know? Yeah. Like, like you said at work, if there is a situation where it's like, you've tried to have the conversation and like you said, the, with regards to your friend, if somebody's lacking that self-awareness, that conversation is gonna be pushing a rock up hill, it's gonna get you nowhere. So it's like, that is a moment where I just you've tried. Why waste the energy? Why waste the time? If it will literally get you nowhere because the person on the receiving end of it or on the other end of the conversation is just never going to help you get to that place of understanding. Like I said, like that's what I need out of a conversation, but I, I do find that I don't really have a lot of people in my life that I can't have just have the conversation with because I's,

Brianna Rooney:
That's good. You're lucky.

Taylor Bradley:
Yeah. Well, like you've mentioned your friend that you were like, enough is enough. I've, I've, I've cut people off for stuff like that where it's like, it's too exhausting. It's just too mentally, emotionally draining. It's like, it's not worth it. You know, mm-hmm so I'll just, that'll be, those are ones, I guess I sweep under the carpet where I'm just like, it's, it's just kind of done. I'm gonna phase this person out of my life because we'll never get to a place of understanding and then things will never change and I'm not happy with the way things are, you know, mm-hmm so it's one of the, that is one situation and scenario where I definitely would sweep it under the carpet. But again, I don't, I don't typically have those relationships in my life because I do, that's something I need to be able to talk through something, get to a place of understanding and then move on.

Brianna Rooney:
Yeah, for sure. But you have to actually move on, which actually I think brings you to your next one really nicely. Yeah.

Taylor Bradley:
So seeing change is an opportunity or challenge. I mean, that is one of the ones, the mindset that everything we've been talking about with mindset, but that's a big one for me is when things, I mean, we all know life is a. It just, God dang. You know, I

Brianna Rooney:
Like that. It's a woman too. Thank you.

Taylor Bradley:
Yes. It's a, it's a. It's a. You know, it's one of those things that I am just like, man, if you really wanted to get down on every negative thing, I mean, even reading the news will stress me out sometimes because it's just so bad. So it's one of those things that it's like, okay, how do you view this? Do you view this as a opportunity or a challenge? Um, and you know, I think back to one of the, one of the moments I had at work that was, ah, that must have been like seven years ago or so a long time ago where, you know, I was in an organization that, um, we had a lot of turnover for a lot of different reasons, but, um, turnover specifically in this one department that it was like, okay, am I gonna see this as an opportunity to, you know, see what other people on the team are capable of and you know, upskill them, or am I gonna see this as a challenge and really get down on the scenario? And it's like, that goes back to, that's not one, that's not something I can change. I can't change it. So I'm not gonna stress about it. I'm going to choose to view this as an opportunity versus a challenge. So mindset as,

Brianna Rooney:
As you should. Exactly. It's how you spin that. It goes back to the spin doctor. So yeah. I love change. Um, I love people telling me that I can or cannot do something, you know, because it's like, all right, I'll show you. Like, I, I, I got that. Um, and I even think that sometimes like, uh, you know, like right now I'm, I'm doing some more biz dev stuff and I haven't done that in a long time. Um, which very fortunate for right. Um, and it's like, okay, uh, let's just go through this really quickly. This is something that I have to do. And, and it might be challenging cause I haven't done it in a while and, and we'll just move forward and yeah, like when you're doing biz dev stuff there, there's nos, there's crickets. There's like all sorts of stuff, but it's like, it's a challenge. And it's a fun one if you frame it like that, like,

Taylor Bradley:
Yeah. I was just gonna say, as a business owner for you and all these businesses that you've started, I feel like, and correct me if I'm wrong, cuz I obviously don't know, but that kind of would have to be your mentality because is just like in startups and stuff's changing so quickly and all that. I feel like if you had the, the opposite mentality where you viewed everything as a challenge, like you would never have been a successful business owner.

Brianna Rooney:
Oh yeah. You can't take anything too seriously. You can't like the mindset. Like I could send out, let's say like a hundred messages to someone and if I'm like in a mood, it's not even though it's the same message and no one knows I'm in a mood. Right? Cyber speak. Yeah. Yeah. It's like it's, for some reason they smell that stinky cheese. They just do. I think like what you put out there is what you get. Um, and that goes back to the visualizing thing. So love the change, love the challenge. Let's let's do the next one. Love that.

Taylor Bradley:
Yeah. So I think this one, this one's kind of obvious. So we don't need to spend too much time on this, but having secure attachments with others, the ability to engage their support, friendships, like people that are resilient, they have friendships, they lean on people for support. I don't think it's healthy or a sign of resilience to internalize things. And just to always be like, I got this, I'll figure it out. I'll handle it. Everybody needs somebody. Everybody needs somebody. They can talk to, whether it's a executive coach or a spouse or whatever, friends, coworkers, you need someone you can talk to. So I think that's a pretty obvious one that resilient people, your social networks help you push through in situations. Um, one of the other ones, I love personal goals who knew that was a characteristic of a resilient person, but it is personal goals

Brianna Rooney:
You have to. And then you, you have your mega goals and you have your micro goals for a long time. I did not operate in micro goals. I only had mega goals and it just, you know, know it's, it's challenging. It's um, you don't feel like you're, you're hitting anything. It's just like, you're in this big realm and you're like trying to chase it. And you're like in quick sand, it's like, it's awful. So I know like a few years ago I finally was like, wait, what am I doing? I need to have micro goals to get here. Uh, it was such a game changer for me.

Taylor Bradley:
Yeah, absolutely. I think it's like, okay, well and how, how I was telling you earlier about the goals that I have. It's like, okay, well I've got these goals and if something that happens, it's like that, didn't I just pivot now, you know, I don't look at it as a setback ever. Like I will just pivot. It's like, okay. I thought I was gonna take step a, then go to B, then go to C, but it's fine. I'm gonna pivot. And I'll still get back to C. So I always, I do always view things like that. Like the course may change, but the goal stays the same.

Brianna Rooney:
Yeah, exactly. Uh, you can have a different plan all the time, but there's always another plan just yesterday. So, um, I've talked about this before, but I have post-it notes on my monitors. I have like about three actually of the different goals or my affirmations or whatever I want, I always like to have five goals at once. And um, just yesterday I'm looking at this post it, and it was like a July goal and I just didn't get there. Like there was just not even time to engage in that goal. And I was like. So I just grabbed it down cuz I was like, Nope, that's demoralizing. Gotta take those off I'm and then I'm gonna take, uh, probably today or tomorrow and think of my August goal and just be like, you know what? Let's scratch that. We're good. I don't need to see it.

Brianna Rooney:
I don't keep it. The only goals that I keep is, um, at the beginning of every year I have like my five mega goals and those that do keep with like my, the, the dates on it and all that stuff. And I like to reflect, because I do think that you still need to, you don't even wanna beat yourself up over things, but you also have to keep yourself like, uh self-awareness right. Hey, what did I do? What did I did not do? Was that crazy to have that goal? How am I gonna move forward?

Taylor Bradley:
I love that you kind of reevaluate those versus like rolling one goal into the next month. Like, oh, I didn't like you were saying with July, I didn't get there. Let me just make that August goal. It's like no reevaluate. Is that actually an obtainable goal? Is it what you need to be focused on right now? I love that you reevaluate your goals continuously. I think that's a good practice.

Brianna Rooney:
Yeah, you have to.

Taylor Bradley:
And then this one, I think this one, if you listen to this podcast, you know, this is already us all day long. So we got this down, but have a strong sense of humor. I love that one. I had no idea that that's a characteristic of a resilient person to have a strong sense of humor.

Brianna Rooney:
Nailed it. I, I, a few weeks ago we were talking and we have this. I didn't realize how similar our sense of humor was in like all different like aspects. But I don't, I don't know if you tripped or I tripped, but we were talking about how like you fell or was the time you split your pants. I remember . Yeah. That's I'll

Taylor Bradley:
Tell that story. Yeah.

Brianna Rooney:
You just kind of look around you're like is no one laughing right now. Like you're almost like I'm insulted if I laugh. I mean, if I fall and no one's laughing around me, I'm insulted. I'm like, hello, this is funny. What are you guys doing?

Taylor Bradley:
Yeah, I'm a sucker for when people fall. Like, that's my thing that if I see those videos or whatever, like I'll laugh because it's like an uncomfortable laughter. But yeah, it was actually, it was when I split my pants open at, um, jury duty. Uh, and I'll save that for a, for another episode to tell everybody this story. But yeah, I was like, I was dying, laughing and people were like, oh my gosh, are you okay? And I was like, it's funny. Yes. Like my whole cheek is out. Like, how are you not dying right now at jury duty? So it's like, I don't know how you wouldn't laugh at that. But yeah, I think strong sense of humor is huge. Um, and that goes with having an optimistic outlook, which is another characteristic, um, patience. And then this one high level of adaptability.

Taylor Bradley:
That's a good one. That's like the change thing that we were talking about, you have to be able to overcome and adapt. And I think that's probably one of the more obvious characteristics of a resilient person, the ability to overcome and adapt to situations. But, um, not having, I think this is more for our world or startups or for you a business owner, but there's so much change that I don't know how anybody in this day and age could not have some of the adaptability characteristic in them, you know, with C with every we've all had so many just changes. You have to be adaptable.

Brianna Rooney:
I was just thinking that. And I actually think that, um, I don't want a tangent on these layoffs too much, cuz you're already, I think people already know how I feel about this, but we saw that actually a lot of companies are not adaptable.

Taylor Bradley:
Yeah.

Brianna Rooney:
Like they, they changed after COVID but then didn't do any better. It's like, what do you mean? You guys changed? Course. You saw what happened. You saw yourself fall on these swords. Lots of other companies. And now we have other companies doing it too. And that just meant you didn't adapt. You were not paying attention.

Taylor Bradley:
Yeah. I think for companies as a whole being adaptable for individuals being adaptable, I mean, that's a huge one for resilience. Mm-hmm I think that's just kind of, that's one of the more obvious ones to me. Um, but I'm leads us beautifully into our broke to boss tip of the week. Um, when building resilience, you're raising the hood and tinkering with the processes of your own internal engine. So that's like more of one of those insightful tips, not a do this or do that or call the action. But it's just knowing that when building your resilience, you're raising the hood and you're tinkering with the processes of your own internal engine,

Brianna Rooney:
Raising the hood. That's just like self awareness, but that was nice. Well done.

Taylor Bradley:
It's like do some maintenance, do some maintenance on yourself, kind of viewing your, your body, your mindset, everything is an engine and doing, you know, you do your monthly maintenance, annual ma whatever anybody needs to do, but doing the maintenance on your own internal engine.

Brianna Rooney:
I love that because we talk about do it like on the physical sense, but it's like all about your mind. It's like, why do we take so much care of our body and not our mind? There's nothing. We can't just switch brains. I mean, one day I hope to be frozen, but , it's like,

Taylor Bradley:
Well you will, with all this Botox,

Brianna Rooney:

Taylor Bradley:
You know me, I did a whole video about it. So I'm a fan of, I I'm going for the frozen look.

Brianna Rooney:
Nice. Good for you. I think of Elson, Anna , but I, I want, I want listeners to know, first of all, thank you for listening. Um, we've gotten so many cool, just like, you know, um, reviews and, and had girls, uh, but also like, you know, um, things and subjects that they want us to touch. And, and we're all over that. You know, I think that the talent world in general, we have so many things to accomplish and so many things to do. But I want listers to know that I actually do not read your broke boss tip. I wait for it in here. We try to be as authentic as possible. And I gotta tell you, Taylor, you just nailed them every single time. Thank you for that.

Taylor Bradley:
Oh, thank you. You just gave me chills. Thank you. No, I, I prep you. I'm a prepper, but then I love it.

Brianna Rooney:
You prep. Yep.

Taylor Bradley:
They change organically too. And that's even better. It's like if, if something comes up in the conversation, that is a give me chills moment. I'm like, Ooh, that's the broke to boss tip, not this other I wrote down. This is the stuff that like, that gives me chills and is a game changer for me. How can it not help others in the same way?

Brianna Rooney:
So agreed. Knowledge is power.

Taylor Bradley:
It is indeed. It is indeed. Well, thanks everybody for listening. We appreciate y'all

Brianna Rooney:
Always. All right. See you next Tuesday. Bye. Hi,

Taylor Bradley:
Y'all.